ALLOW ME TO WHISPER INTO YOUR EARS

Before our wedding, I have always wanted a silver tiny ring, when I and my darling husband went shopping for rings, I saw a set which I loved but when we heard the cost, I switched from want mood to need mood immediately.

It happened that years ago, I went with a close friend to choose her wedding ring and she was particular about what she wanted, she wanted a bold wedding band, single piece.
We kept moving from one shop to another, luckily we found what she wanted, she asked for the price and it was way beyond her budget. I burst out with laughter when she said. "Wearing an expensive ring does not determine a happy marriage".
So she picked another one which she could afford.

To be honest, those material things we fought tooth and nail to have and we got, during our wedding preparations, do they still matter?

I remembered saying I wasn't going to rent a wedding gown, I wanted it brand new, yes I did wear a brand new gown, but it is lying somewhere in my house occupying space, probably out of fashion now.

Yesterday I read a story on the internet how a lady turned down a proposal because the engagement ring cost N10,000

Everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion, not to his/her facts.

Dear singles,

How you propose and where you are being proposed to is not a criterion for a happy home.
The value of your wedding band or engagement ring will not be a deciding factor to a happy marriage, neither will the wedding gown you put on.

The value of the makeup you want to wear, or the hall and event planner you will love to use, will not determine the longevity of your marriage.

The MC or DJ contracted on your wedding day is not a criterion for a successful marriage life.

Where you will spend your honeymoon or the house you want to live in does not determine the joy of marriage.

Don't give room for societal pressure, in as much as desiring the best things at each stage of life is not bad in any way, just do you, don't go bankrupt because you want to impress family members or friends.

If you can afford the best fine, but if you both cannot afford it at the time of preparation, cut your cloth according to your material and be happy.

The most important factor is preparing yourself to enjoy marriage, get knowledgeable by reading books, attending seminars and workshops.

I read of a high-profile lady who just got married, in her words, she said "I paid for a section on marriage". This is someone that can afford all her needs and want but still knows the value of getting knowledge in marital affairs.

Real-life starts after the wedding day, are you equipped with the right knowledge for the journey? Yes it is a learning process, but do you know what to learn in the process?

I encourage you, to take advantage of the classes or webinars being organized by coaches, and learn one or two things.