You keep staring at him, wishing he would open up.
Wishing he would say something, anything, that shows you he feels what you feel. And when the silence goes on for too long, your mind starts whispering the same painful question: “Is he even emotional at all? ”But here’s the truth nobody told you:
Some men are not unemotional…
they are wounded.
They are scared.
They are trained to be silent.
Many men were raised in homes where:
“Stop crying.”
“Be strong.”
“Men don’t talk too much.”
“Hold it together.” were the only emotional lessons they ever received.
So now he loves you, he feels deeply for you, but he doesn’t know how to turn those feelings into words. He’s not pulling away because he doesn’t care.
Sometimes he’s quiet because he cares so much, he doesn’t know how to say it without messing everything up.
Sometimes he’s quiet because his childhood taught him to shut down.
Sometimes he’s quiet because he’s afraid of disappointing you.
Sometimes he’s quiet because life broke him in ways he never learned to heal.
And yes… sometimes he’s just unavailable.
But don’t mistake silence for a lack of emotion, many times, silence is a man’s way of saying:
“I don’t know how to talk…
but I’m trying to love you the best way I can.
” Before you label him as unemotional, pause… and look at the story behind his silence. Because every silent man has one. Andd sometimes,
that story explains everything.