Initially, when I got married, I would spend my strength and time cleaning the house, when sweeping, I would raise the center table and chairs to sweep and scrub. The house is always neat and sparkling.
During the weekends when I am supposed to be chilling in the arms of my new groom to rub heads and minds together, I will be doing busy body up and down.
I didn't know he was watching me, one day he couldn't hold it any longer he called me, babe, I answered I didn't marry caterpillar or house help, I married a wife, come seat here with me and take a rest.
Each time I remember that statement I can't stop laughing. I learned how to prioritize my house housework not to spend the whole day working and not building a home suitable and conducive for us to excel.
That is the topic for today.
BUILD EARLY
In university days we often say we want to build our CGPA in the first year and second year, same with marriage.
Get to work immediately after your wedding, talk, and agree on the structure you want your home to be.
We concentrate on "I do not want any relative to stay with us" that is not all for marriage? Most times the relatives that stay are not the real cause of the trouble in your home.
Marriage is an institution, so run it like one, you both are the Vice-chancellor and Dean of Faculty.
That is why we hear most wives say the early years of marriage was not easy, yours could be a little easy if you begin early to build in areas like:
1. Praying together
The earlier the better you agree on family time for praying together morning and night the lighter it will be when children begin to come in, don't concentrate on keeping the house physically clean while spiritually it is dirty, most times when we will be busy working that is when hubby is free to pray but because of time sensitivity we complain that they do not love joining in family prayer. Reschedule your timing.
2. Place structures early enough
As little as this is, it is one of the major causes of frequent quarreling in marriage as time goes on. Would you want to be given daily feeding money, weekly feeding money, or monthly feeding money? Monthly looks good, because it allows you to buy in bulk, but do what works for you.
3.Build communication around his or her love language.
Communicating as a single is different from communicating when married, when single, you could say it anyway for your benefit, but when married, you communicate for the benefit of two people so the tone and timing are important in marriage.
These are part of being intentional about building a marriage that will last
Marriage is not only about the romance you get, it is also about the things that will make the romance, peace and joy last.