I still don't understand why some family members think they have an advantage or can act however they please in people's homes and get away with it just because they are related.
There is no need to pretend because we are aware of the harm that results from improper family management.
This story still feels fresh like it happened yesterday of a lady who was given a marriage souvenir, “her husband’s 18 year old sister”, to come live with them as new couples after her wedding. Her attitude was so disrespectful, she was getting to her limit of tolerating her excesses because she couldn't complain as a new wife.
The most annoying incident was one time when she left food for dinner, they got back from work tired and hungry, it was time to serve food, she couldn’t find any meal that would satisfy a single person, the house was a complete mess with used dishes in the sink.
This went on for a while, and each time she complained to her husband about it, he couldn't understand why she was upset about his sisters attitude.
As a result, she continued to put up with it because she didn't want her to spread rumors about her unwillingness to make accommodations for her husband's relative. She continued with her disrespectful act until one day she entered their bedroom without knocking while they were both under the sheet and that was when her husband understood what her complaint was.
The thing is if you have not witnessed disrespect from in laws, you won't relate with her pain.
Some husbands who have not witnessed their relative act inappropriately might neglect the complaint to suit themselves by requesting that he sends them away because he married her.
While some men won't hesitate to send their wives away because a sibling or parent complained, but when their wives complain, they tend to think twice.
One of your main responsibilities as the head of the family is to PROTECT your family from anything that might steal their peace and happiness.
Although the focus is on men because we all agree that men are the family's head, this does not mean that women are not equally responsible for siding with errant family members.
Some women carelessly allow their relatives who dress seductively, almost half naked in the presence of their husbands, when the man complains they turn it against him that he is insecure. Insecure you say? Don't let your story be on Dr Olumide’s show.
Some allow their siblings to challenge or talk back to their husbands if reprimanded for acting wrongly.
My advice to you should be aware of who you invite into your home and who you shouldn't invite in as these are your relatives and you know their capabilities.