We can get so busy with life that we put our important relationships with loved ones at the back seat.
Take a look at this couple Emeka and Funmi who had been married for three years. When they started, they agreed on certain principles: praying together, saving a percentage of their income, and always resolving conflicts before bed. But life got busy.
Funmi started spending more than they had budgeted, and Emeka got so caught up in work that he barely had time for their evening check-ins.
Small cracks began to form in their marriage. One evening, Funmi said, "Babe, I feel like we’ve stopped holding each other accountable. We used to check in, plan together, and make sure we were both on track. I think we need to bring that back." That conversation led to renewed commitment.
They started scheduling weekly marriage check-ins, set clear financial goals, and even made time for short evening talks.
Their marriage became stronger because they chose accountability over assumptions. And this is why Accountability is very important from the early stages of your marriage. It Builds Trust When both partners are accountable, trust deepens. You don’t have to wonder if your spouse is hiding something or if they’ll keep their promises, you know they will because they’ve shown accountability in the past.
It Prevents Resentment Many marriages issues stem from unmet expectations. When couples don’t check in on commitments, small frustrations can turn into deep resentment.
Regular accountability helps avoid this by ensuring that both partners feel heard and valued. It Strengthens Communication Honest and open conversations about responsibilities, emotions, and expectations create a strong communication foundation.
When couples are accountable to each other, they create a space where tough conversations can happen with love and respect. It Encourages Growth Accountability pushes both partners to be their best selves.
Whether it’s improving finances, working on emotional intelligence, or strengthening faith, a spouse who lovingly holds you accountable can help you grow in ways you might not on your own.
Accountability in marriage isn’t about control, it’s about commitment. It’s a sign of love, respect, and dedication to the relationship. When couples hold each other accountable with kindness and understanding, their marriage flourishes.