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It turns out he was only kind to the niece because she reminds him of his ex. Another brother said yes to a lady because “she prays and sings in the choir.” Now, she prays at him and sings him into guilt every time they argue. You see where I’m going with this?

Every silence when they actually wanted to be held. Every time they say, “I get it” instead of “I need you.

Being best friends is not enough. Even with both of you having “daddy G.O” as spiritual father is not enough. You’ll still face moments where you want to scream, cry, or sleep in separate rooms and it’s not because you married the wrong person. It’s because marriage demands emotional maturity and sacrificial living and many of you are not ready for that part. Do you want a good marriage? Then choose someone who’s teachable.

Understanding the evolution of marriage in the modern age is essential to grasp societal transformations. This compelling blog post discusses how cultural shifts and changing individual expectations have reshaped the concept of marriage. Explore the nuances of evolving relationships and the lessons they hold for fostering meaningful connections in today's world.

I see how my boss in the office bosses around giving instructions but once his wife calls him, his tone changes to be more subtle and welcoming. He becomes a different person. The one that shocked me was how he postponed a very important meeting to attend to his wife’s need when she was having difficulty with a transaction at the bank, he quietly told his partners to give him few hours or they could hold the meeting on zoom.

Making marriage an idol can lead to placing too much emphasis on the institution of marriage and not enough on the individuals involved. This can cause individuals to prioritize the idea of being married over being in a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It can lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointment when the reality of marriage does not live up to the idolized image you see around.

You may say to yourself, it is his or her job 'No,' it is a choice. Appreciate every little thing or the time they show you the love you desire, I do not mean you have to throw a party, acknowledging their efforts, give positive energy and affection, all this can be done by using the right words. Do you know that words are like arrows that can make or mare your spouse or children, words are sent on errands whenever they are spoken, in Kelvin's case it was sent to destroy his self-esteem as a man.

The thing is if you have not witnessed disrespect from in laws, you won't relate with her pain. Some husbands who have not witnessed their relative act inappropriately might neglect the complaint to suit themselves by requesting that he sends them away because he married her. While some men won't hesitate to send their wives away because a sibling or parent complained, but when their wives complain, they tend to think twice.

Unfortunately, society just happens to support unfaithful behaviors and we continue to defend some men's lack of discipline so well that it is now acceptable in most marriages. It is so bad that we tell women to focus on themselves and let them do as they like at the detriment of their health.

Then anger crept in, why should that be an excuse, after all, they knew we were dating, why didn't they caution you before allowing me to introduce you to my whole family? How do I explain this to them?

Valuing your partner means showing them that you care about them and their well-being. It's about making an effort to show them that you want them to shine as well, and be there for them in good times and bad.

However you choose to do relationship, either private or public, don’t forget to have major conversation before you say I do.